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Sinless Sex

"Oh, uncle, it's so thoughtful and generous of you to let us spend our honeymoon here." Lily exclaims as she and her bridegroom, Chris, drive with her wealthy uncle onto his sprawling country estate.

"It's just gorgeous, sir, Chris adds as he marvels at the beautiful scenery around them.

"Well," the elderly gentleman replies with a twinkle in his eye, "To let you spend a week or two out here at my hideaway is the least I can do for my favourite niece and her husband, consider it my wedding present to both of you." After giving them a brief tour of his lovely country home, he bids them farewell, saying, "I must be getting back to town now, so I'll leave you two lovebirds alone, just give me a call if you need anything."

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Early the next morning, Lily is sitting outside the house. She hardly notices what a beautiful day it is, for despite the cheerful song of the birds, her heart is heavy and her mind is confused. As a tear rolls down her cheek she laments to herself, "Why did it have to happen like that"? We could have had such a beautiful time together, but now our honeymoon is ruined."

She'd felt so nervous the night before when she first walked into the bedroom dressed in the sheer black nightie she had bought for the occasion. Chris was all aglow and exclaimed that she was the most beautiful woman he'd ever known and that he knew they were going to be the happiest couple in the world.

Now she feels like they must be the saddest couple in the world. Everything had begun to go wrong at bedtime when Chris suggested they get in bed. As they undressed, she felt so self-conscious and uncomfortable, that--to Chris' surprise--she turned off the light. By the time they were in bed together, she was so worried her stomach was in knots.

"Why did I react that way," she asks herself. "As soon as he began caressing me, I just froze with fright. I wanted to respond and return his kisses and touches, but I couldn't.

"Then when he tried to actually make love to me...I've always thought that it was sinful and dirty, I just didn't know what to expect. I felt relieved when he finally quit trying and said it was all right, we could try again later when I wasn't so tense. Now I just feel awful, like such a failure. I wonder if he even loves me anymore?"

Her mind wanders back to when she and Chris first met each other just nine months earlier. He had been working in her country for almost a year, and was introduced to her by a close friend. Although both she and Chris are from different cultural, racial and religious backgrounds, they were immediately attracted to each other and soon fell deeply in love.

Chris soon found out that Lily, due to her strict background and the traditional customs and mores in which she had been reared, was very shy and reserved. despite some attempts on his part to persuade her to make love with him, she insisted that they get married first. Because he loved her and was planning to marry her anyway, he was willing to wait until after their wedding, a day he had very much looked forward to.

Now, the day after their wedding night, Lily feels so sad. Still engrossed in her thoughts about the night before, she is suddenly startled by Chris' cheery greeting, "Good morning, sweetheart. It's such a beautiful day, I thought it would be nice to walk down to the little lake that your uncle told us about. We could take a dip there, and then enjoy this picnic that I've prepared."

Relieved to see that he is acting as if nothing bad had happened, Lily replies, "That's a great idea, honey."

After changing into their bathing suits, they are soon walking together hand in hand along the beautiful flower-bordered pathway that leads to the lake. As they stroll along, enjoying the sights, scents and sounds of the lush green woods, Lily begins to feel more at ease.

"You know, honey," Chris says as they near the lake, "One of the most important things in any relationship is honesty and good communication. I know you probably don't want to talk about last night, but I think it's important that we do. Sweetheart, I want you to know that I love you, and I'll do my best to understand whatever is wrong." Reassuringly squeezing her hand, he says, "You were so frightened, honey. please tell me what it was. Was it me, did I do something wrong?"

After several moments of silence, she reluctantly replies, "It wasn't anything you did, Chris, it was me, it's all my fault. Oh, Chris, I was so afraid that something like that would happen, and it did," she sobs.

As he tries to comfort her, telling her everything is going to be all right, she explains, "It's just that, as you know, I've never gone to bed with a man before and I was always taught that it's wrong, that it's dirty to let a man touch me the way that you were touching me. Even though we're married now, I can't help but feel the same way. My parents and teachers always gave me the impression that sex is something secretive and shameful, even evil."

"When I was a teenager, my older brother's friend and I got pretty involved with each other. I'll never forget the night my mother caught us kissing and cuddling together on the living room couch. She became absolutely hysterical. After screaming at us and ordering him to leave, she gave me a lecture I'll never forget. It made me feel so dirty and cheap. She warned me that if I got physically involved with a boy, my reputation would be ruined and I would become a disgrace to our entire family."

"She said that to have sex with your husband in order to have children was necessary, but to enjoy sex, to take pleasure in the touch and taste and feel of a man's body, this was something that a respectable woman would never do. Later on, she even arranged for one of the local religious teachers to meet with me, who also lectured me and reminded me of our religion's emphasis on moral purity and the denial of physical pleasures. Needless to say, I grew up convinced that sex was not only sinful and shameful in the eyes of my parents, but also in the sight of God. So I decided that I would always preserve my honour and not give in to such temptations."

"Then I met you, Chris, and we fell in love, and I suddenly felt different than I ever had before. Because I love you, I want to show you my love and do whatever I can to make you happy, and I...I want you to make me happy too. I want us to be able to enjoy each other. Last night these thoughts and fears from my past rose up within me. Although I wanted to love you and give myself to you, these fears and feelings of guilt just gripped me. I became so torn between what I had been taught in the past and the way that I feel for you now. I'm so sorry, Chris," she exclaims, again bursting into tears. "I'm so confused."

"Honey, I understand completely," he lovingly and sympathetically assures her. "I'm so glad you told me what was wrong. You know, sweetheart, even though I come from a very different background than yours, I also was taught by my parents and religion teachers that sex was something shameful. I too was plagued by similar fears and guilt complexes about sex."

"Then, a few years ago while on a business trip, I met and had a brief love affair with a girl who was freer, happier and more loving than anyone I had ever met before. She loved me and shared with me her strong faith in the God of the Bible. A God who, contrary to what so many religions teach, is a loving creator who made this world for us to live in and enjoy, for our pleasure, including His wonderful gift of sex."

"The things this girl taught me about God and sex were new to me, because practically from the time I was born, I was taught to feel guilty about sex and ashamed of my own God-given sexual parts. As a child I remember being told over and over, 'No, no. naughty. That's dirty. Hide it. Don't ever do that.' Even in the church that I went to, where they were supposed to know and believe in God, they did not seem to realise that Adam and Eve enjoyed sex before they ever fell into sin. Their fall was a result of their disobedience, and had nothing to do with sex."

"Nor did the church teach me that Adam and Eve were created with sexual organs with which to enjoy sex in the very beginning. After He created that beautiful, nude, perfectly-formed first couple, the Bible says, 'and God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good.' (Gen.1:31)"

"If there's something unclean or wrong with sex or our bodies, Lily," Chris asks her, "Then why did God make them?"

Lily, who is unable to answer Chris' frank and open question, looks at him in wide-eyed amazement as he continues, "So how can sex possibly be wrong when God made it? He's the one who made our bodies and he made our sexual organs. He made them for us to enjoy. The Bible says, 'God has given us richly all things to enjoy.' (1Tim.6:17) The shameful attitude and guilty feelings that we grew up with were wrong. Sex is not evil but a wonderful gift from God to be freely and fully enjoyed in the right relationships."

"Honey, do you know what God's first commandment to Adam and Eve was," Chris asks her.

"Not to eat the 'apple'," she timidly replies.

"No," he answers with a smile, "His first commandment to Adam and Eve was to have sex.: 'be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth,' (Gen.1:28) which means they had to have sex. God told them to have sex, and He intended for them to enjoy it. His loving plan for man was for them to make love, enjoy the pleasures he created, have babies and fill the earth with beautiful children."

"Then the devil came along and persuaded them to disobey God by partaking of the forbidden fruit of the tree of knowledge. It was then, after they listened to the devil and sinned, that they suddenly were aware that they were naked and became ashamed of their beautiful nude bodies. (See Genesis 3) Before their disobedience, the Bible says, 'they were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed.' (Gen.2:25)"

"God's first commandment to them was to have sex, to be fruitful and multiply. One of the devil's first commandments to them was not to have sex. He made them feel that their nudity was wrong and that their bodies and sex were evil. He got them to coverup, because without nudity they could have no sex, and without sex they could have no children. He hoped to frustrate and defeat God's plan to populate the earth, so Satan hates sex."

"Contrary to what our religions taught us, sex is not the devil's idea. Sex is God's own creation, His idea, His gift to us, and the devil is its arch enemy. He would no doubt stop it entirely if he could, but God made man's sexual desires and urges so strong, that man virtually has to have it, and therefore the devil could not stop it."

"Satan hates sex, but since he can't wipe it out, he tries to control it and get the credit for it. He has craftily deceived the world into thinking that he loves it, and that in order to enjoy it, people have got to break the laws of God and the Bible and be the devil's sinners. He has totally perverted the whole world's attitude towards sex, persuading them that it's evil, that it's wrong, and that they have got to be following him in order to enjoy it."

"The sad thing is, if people allow the devil to persuade them that enjoying sex is a sin, and they believe his anti-sex lies, then for them it is a sin, for the Bible says that, 'whatsoever is not of faith is sin.' (Rom.14:23) A lot has to do with your spiritual and mental attitude. If you believe God's word, and know that sex is His creation, His gift designed for your enjoyment, then you no longer need to feel condemned about it. As Jesus said, '....the truth shall make you free.'(Jn.8:32)"

"Honey," Lily questions, "I can't believe that all sex is good. What about all of those sex magazines and movies that glorify perversions, violence, etc?"

"Like I was saying," Chris replies, "Sex is God's creation and the devil hates it. But because he wants the credit and the worship for it, he takes God's marvellous and beautiful gift of sex and tries to pervert it into something ugly, horrible and wicked. He often pretends to promote it, when what he's really doing is absolutely degrading it, demeaning it, besmirching it, trying to drag God's wonderful creation down to the gutter. God meant for it to be beautiful, and it is beautiful. It's the devil who tries to pervert and make it ugly and crude and almost sickening."

"Artistic nudity and loving, clean, romantic sex are beautiful,the way that God meant for it to be. Any kind of violent or hurtful or perverted sex is sickening. The Bible says, "God is love." (1Jn.4:8) So if it's unloving, it's unGodly and of the devil."

"Our bodies are beautiful creations of God, and every part of them is perfectly normal, natural, good and God-made for perfectly good purposes and uses, if used at the right times with the right people. Our sexual parts are just as good as the rest of our bodies, and sexual activities, feelings and pleasures are as natural and normal as eating, drinking, exercising or enjoying any other God-created physical functions and pleasures."

"God is not against pleasure. He even created us and the entire universe for his own enjoyment. The Bible says, 'O Lord, thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.' (Rev. 4:11) Just as God himself enjoys pleasure, he made us 'in his image' (Gen.1:26)--like Himself in many ways--and therefore He wants and expects us to en-joy the many wonderful pleasures of life that He has made for us." (See Ecc.5:18-20)

As she intently listens to what Chris is telling her, Lily feels that it's really true, and she believes that the God of the Bible, her Creator, really is a God of love who wants for her to enjoy the pleasures, feelings and sensations that He himself created. She suddenly sees how foolish it is to let the superstitious and traditional fears of her past plague and bind her with inhibitions and guilt complexes.

Looking deeply into Chris' warm and tender eyes, Lily's fears seem to lose their grip on her. She begins to realise that her feelings and desire to enjoy love with Chris are as natural and beautiful and normal and God-created as the birds and the bees, the flowers and the butterflies, and the rest of the gorgeous God-made creation around her.

"I love you, Chris." she sighs, as she kisses him. "Thank you for being so understanding, and for giving me such a helpful answer. It seems so right now. Why should I let the wrong attitudes from my past hold me back?"

After another warm and tender kiss, she and Chris spread out the picnic blanket, and there among the flowers, they are soon joined in total union of heart, mind and body, and truly become one. and now, instead of feeling fear and guilt, Lily pictures in her mind's eye her Creator, the God of love, smiling on them as they enjoy his loving gift of sinless sex.

Edited by Almondtree Productions